LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"The speed of joy is the speed that allows you to flourish." Matthew Kelly

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

Continuing on in our conversation around JOY for another 2 weeks.

I've been talking about this book by Matthew Kelly, Slowing Down to the Speed of Joy, and this quote is just a theme throughout the book.

Basically Kelly is saying that Joy isn't found by moving faster - it's found by moving at the right pace for you.

The core idea: modern life pressures us to do more, faster. But joy - genuine flourishing - has its own natural rhythm. When you outrun it (overcommitment, constant busyness, chasing the next thing), you lose it. When you slow down below it (stagnation, avoidance), you also miss it.

"The speed of joy" is whatever pace lets you be fully present, engaged, and growing - not burned out, not coasting. That speed is personal and varies by season of life.

Here's his major takeaway: "If you're not experiencing joy, you might not need to try harder - you might need to slow down."

I won't bore you with more stories about my bird watching! (see last weeks post if you missed it) but that experience last week did something in me that I'm trying to figure out.

Steps from my home office is an incredible back yard. We've been working on this yard over the past number of years and Gina has everything blooming, the landscape looking great and the yard is "flourishing".

We enjoy the yard, and often use it to host our family and our friends, but it seems that the only times I'm using the yard by myself is when I'm working in it. I'm not taking advantage of this refuge we have right here.

The bird watching experience reminded me of this great space that I don't use and appreciate near enough.

This past weekend, I found myself on one of our chaise lounges, not only watching and listening to the birds, but just enjoying the silence around me. I didn't reach for my phone, I didn't have a book in my hand, I just sat in the silence. This led to a short nap which then led to an even longer nap on the couch.

I can't tell you when the last time I fell asleep sitting outside was. It's been a while. I really don't nap, but for some reason, this weekend, it was a gift!

I'm trying to slow down. I'm trying to not be so tied to my phone, to the news, to what's happening every minute of the day. I realize that slowing down isn't just shifting from one pace to a slower pace, but it's actually stopping completely: stopping to catch my breath, stopping to replenish, stopping to just sit in the moment. I'm tired of living at a pace where I continually miss the things that are right in front of my face.

What does personal FLOURISHING look like to you?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"Let your joy be in your journey - not in some distant goal." Tim Cook

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

Continuing on in our conversation around JOY.

Apples CEO Tim Cook made this statement during a university commencement address years ago, and it was a simple reminder to the graduates to focus on the process, embrace the present and appreciate the personal growth along the way.

I'm reading this book by Matthew Kelly called "Slowing Down to the Speed of Joy". (Thanks again Brad for the recommendation). There's a short section in the book that is simply called:

JESUS WAS NEVER IN A HURRY

Kelly talks about the idea that Jesus didn't have these words in His life: urgent - busy - hurry

Jesus consistently took time for Himself, He allowed things to play out in front of Him, He paid attention to the things that were most important, He valued relationships, and He didn't mind making others uncomfortable with His time frame to address urgent needs.

The 3-year journey Jesus embarked on was the goal. Yes, there was an end goal, but He took advantage of every opportunity along the way to invest into peoples lives, to commune with His Father, to meet peoples needs and to model love and compassion.

I don't know about you, but I'm in a hurry... a lot! There is always something on my list that needs to be done or an urgent interruption that needs to be addressed.

The words: urgent - busy - hurry are not only attached to my life, but often they are words that people use to define me. I cringe when I hear people say, "Russ, you're so busy" or "Russ, I know you are in a hurry so I'll be quick." What am I communicating to people by my life? What am I living out?

I want JOY to be a part of my "every day" experience and not be the goal that I'm working hard to achieve.

This past weekend, I walked outside to our backyard and I found Gina sitting with her "BIRD APP" open, identifying the different birds that were making sounds in our yard and zooming in and out to get access to the water and food she has for these birds. I sat down, pulled out my BIRD APP (yes, we have a Bird App - see below) and at one point there were 11 different birds in and around our yard. We saw them, we identified the differences and we even got out the binoculars for a different view. What started as a short "good morning" turned into about 30 minutes of just JOY... acknowledging the sounds, the beauty, God's creation that is right here, in my yard.

What would it take for people to say: Russ Was Never In A Hurry?

How are you experiencing JOY in your journey on a regular basis?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"The things that truly bring us joy are rarely things." Joshua Fields Millburn

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

Continuing on in our conversation around JOY.

I asked you a question last week, "What Brings You Joy?". We then started a conversation around JOY and what we can do to find Joy in the midst of a lot of stuff going on in our lives.

I found this quote from Joshua Fields Millburn, and I've been thinking about it for a few days. Millburn is one half of The Minimalists. Millburn and his friend Ryan Nicodemus began when some life challenges pushed them to downsize their "stuff", and that began a pursuit of finding happiness and contentment not in their "stuff" but in simplicity.

I've listened to a number of their podcasts and read one of their books years ago (noted below).

This quote then has some deeper meaning for them, and as I think about it, it definitely has deep meaning for me.

The truth is simple: We often think that JOY comes in the form of "things", and sometimes that is true, "things" can bring some joy, but if I were to be honest, joy comes from and through people in my life, through others, through my relationship with God, through so many things that don't stack up in my garage.

Let me test my theory: I owned a dream motorcycle years ago, a 2007 BMW GS 1200. This is a bike that was built for adventure, and when I purchased it in 2012, I needed some adventure in my life. I had ridden motorcycles in many different parts of the world and the U.S., and I always wanted to own a GS because the South Africa rides I took were so epic on that machine. I had one. It DID bring me joy.

Then it didn't. I got busy. My friend wasn't riding as much (sorry Jim). The bike sat in my garage not being used. I'd pull it out once in a while and something had shifted in me and I didn't find that ongoing sense of adventure and escape.

Finally, a few years ago, I made the decision to get rid of it. I was tired of paying for maintenance, insurance and registration and not riding it at all. I sold it quickly, took the money and purchased a pair of E-Bikes so Gina and I could explore and ride together. Great purpose, new joy.

As I think about that bike, I think I realize that the joy wasn't coming from the actual motorcycle, but it was coming from the comaraderie, the adventure, the exploration of new countries and rides. It was coming from the people that I shared these experiences with, not from the hunk of metal sitting in my garage.

So yes, there was some joy coming from by ability to own and ride that bike, but the truth is, I'm still in relationship with all these guys I've shared the road with. We'll ride again, we'll plan another trip, we'll find other adventure, either on a bike or just in our own aging lives! Cue Wild Hogs Theme Song Here....

Where does your Joy come from?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day. Henri J.M. Nouwen

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

This month I want to focus on the word JOY.

Last week, while recording a podcast with a friend, I was asked the question, "what brings you joy"? It was a great question, and it kind of stopped me in my tracks.

Earlier in the week, Gina and I had attended the funeral of a good friend, and while there was sadness, there was also so much joy around the way he lived his life and the influence he had on so many people. It was a broad scope of emotions as we celebrated his life and as we connected with good friends in the process.

I then came back home to a really full and hectic week, and I'm learning that sometimes these transitions from one thing to another need a little time! The truth is, I flew back really early in order to make an important meeting, so I was tired, emotional, and not ready to dive into the tasks that were before me.

In the midst of these transitions, these emotions, this fatigue, and the urgency of things on my plate, we escaped late Thursday afternoon to attend our grandsons first art show at his preschool. (Yes, he's truly an artist). As members of our family came together to celebrate this beautiful child, I was overwhelmed. It wasn't just the art, but it was the love that was being displayed through our family, it was my 2 grandkids running on the grass chasing a ball, it was smiles and laughter, it was cheering and encouragement, it was just pure JOY.

I didn't realize it at the time, but it was so much more than a moment.

It was a reflection of what was stirring in my heart and soul in the midst of everything that had gone on during the week, and I didn't realize it in the moment, but when I reflected back while doing the podcast, that was the first thing out of my mouth when asked, "what brings you joy?".

Nouwen shares this:

"Joy isn't the same as happiness. Happiness is reactive - it comes and goes based on circumstances. Joy is something deeper: a settled sense of meaning and gratitude that can coexist with suffering, grief, or difficulty."

It's a discipline, not a moment and I want to keep choosing it everyday.

What Brings YOU Joy?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"If you spend your life trying to be good at everything, you will never be great at anything." Tom Rath

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

We continue the conversation on STRENGTHS for a few more weeks.

Tom Rath has spent his life focused on different aspects of Strengths-Based Leadership as well as a Leaders Health. His books have had a profound influence in my life over the years and I'm currently reading his latest book, What's the Point, which is a book about purpose.

I shared with you a little bit about my drumming passion growing up, but I have other music interests as well. I play the guitar, bass guitar and the piano a little bit.

Here's the deal, I can pick one up or sit down at the piano and play something. I've learned enough over the years to be able to perform, to play a tune, or even to lead worship, but I never "mastered" any of those instruments. I play enough to get by and to use it, but I'm not good enough to do more with it.

Do you want to know why? Because I chose to be "good" or "decent" at all three, and never put the time into practicing any one of those to become really great.

Sometimes when I'm standing in church or at a concert, I just get lost in the musicians abilities to play their instrument.

We went to see The Eagles (my favorite band growing up) last year perform, and I was standing there in awe of their talent. Don Henley playing the drums, Joe Walsh just screaming on the guitar, and Vince Gill fitting into the Eagles lineup with incredible vocals and guitar playing. Timothy B. Schmit plays the bass so casually, but it drives their music.

These are performers who have spent a lifetime becoming GREAT.

I chose to be "OK".

Do I have regrets? Sometimes. Gina often asks me what instrument I'd like to play in a band, and it always depends on the kind of music they're playing.

I'd like to be able to really play the piano, or to play the guitar the way I see some of these professionals play.

But, I chose other things, other passions, other interests. I chose to develop strengths in other ways that were a good investment in my time.

I could talk to you about my desire to be a GREAT golfer, but that will never happen, so I'll just keep being OK.

How do we determine what to focus on? What to spend time developing? What to invest the energy into?

That's a conversation between you and God. He made you for a unique purpose, and once you find out what that is, you will be drawn to grow and develop in the areas that help you become the best you can be, with His help.

I may never be a world famous musician, but I can still admire those people, I can appreciate the work they've put into developing their skills, and I can stay true to the path I'm on, being the person God has called me to be.

What do you want to be GREAT at? What are you GREAT at? Why?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"What leaders have in common is that each really knows their strengths, has developed their strengths, and can call on the right strength at the right time." Donald O. Clifton

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

We continue the conversation on STRENGTHS for a few more weeks.

Donald O. Clifton really began the study of STRENGTHS which came from this thought:

"What will happen when we think about what is right with people rather than fixating on what is wrong with them?"

Clifton went on to create the CliftonStrengths (Strengthsfinder 2.0 with Tom Rath) which has been used around the world to help people identify their core strengths using a 34-theme template.

The idea is pretty simple: If I come home with a report card in Junior High School, and I have an A in English, a B in History and a D in Math, my parents will naturally tell me I have to focus on getting the math grade up, and at the expense of the classes I excel in, I need to put all my energy into my math grade, which in turn might bring my math grade up to a C, but it might also bring my English & History grades down.

Clifton calls it "weakness-fixing" and he points out that this leads to mediocrity and that it doesn't reflect my true capacity.

Of course there's balance in everything. If you're getting a D in a class you need to work on that to some extent, however in Cliftons writings, he shares that in areas of weakness, learn to be content with a C grade in math and then spend your energy and time on areas of interest and natural talent.

I wish I had understood this concept earlier in my life, in my development.

When I was a kid, my first instrument was an accordion. I have no idea why my parents would do that to me, but I hauled the accordion for a while back and forth to lessons. I don't remember ever really enjoying it. My next instrument was the piano, and while I enjoyed this, I just didn't want to be a piano player, of course this was before Elton John & Billy Joel made it cool.

I wanted to be a drummer! I had dreams and goals of being a rock and roll drummer, and fortunately my parents believed in that dream. I took lessons, I rented a snare drum to practice at home, eventually I got my first drum set (which was banished to a room far away from everyone else), and I played the drums all the way through late elementary school, junior high and high school. After college I played at my church and continued to play percussion for many many years.

Drumming was in my bones. Gina experiences it often as I work out a rhythm on the steering wheel of our car, over and over again!

I don't know if drumming is a strength, a talent or a passion, but I'm thankful that my parents saw that in me and not only encouraged me, but made it possible for me to develop this in my life.

That's what I want to do more of: identify areas of strength in people and help them experience the joy that comes from using that God-given gift to impact the world!

What's a STRENGTH you have that you'd like to explore and invest in?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"Cultivate a deep understanding of yourself - not only what your strengths and weaknesses are but also how you learn, how you work with others, what your values are, and where you can make the greatest contribution. Because only when you operate from strengths can you achieve true excellence." Peter Drucker

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

Last week, I referenced a Peter Drucker book, The Five Most Important Questions that we used at our Leader Mundial Cohort here in Orange County.

As I revisited this book, and came across this quote of his above from something else he had done, and I've been thinking about it this week.

This month, I want to do a deep dive into the conversation around our "STRENGTHS". I'm not sure where this will take us, but I want to explore this with you a little bit over the coming weeks.

There are some great books and teaching on STRENGTHS, and I want to look at a couple of different approaches over the next few weeks.

The first comes from Marcus Buckingham. He's done some great writing and teaching on strengths so let me give you a simple overview from him.

Buckinghams definition of a strength: "a strength is an activity that makes you feel strong". He goes on to say "not something you're merely good at, and not something other people praise you for - but an activity that, when you do it, energizes you, draws you in, and leaves you feeling more alive afterward than before."

He points for four practical signals using the acronym SIGN:

• SUCCESS - you do it well or at least pick it up quickly

• INSTINCT - you find yourself drawn to it, looking forward to it

• GROWTH - you're naturally curious and absorb information quickly

• NEEDS - you feel fulfilled and replenished after doing it, not depleted.

Buckingham goes on to say that "strengths are not the same as talents".

An example of this in my life might be:

• When I "gather people together", it energizes me, draws me in and leaves me feeling more alive. This is a strength that I am able to grow and develop over time. The strength might be "Activating or Maximizing Relationships".

I think when Buckingham says that a strength needs to "energize you" that's an interesting description.

What strengths do you personally feel you have that fit this description?

LEADERSHIP QUOTE:

"Rest isn't a reward for work; it's part of the work." Leesa Renee Hall

A LITTLE BIT DEEPER:

I want to continue this theme one last week. REST.

I appreciate Leesa Renee Halls quote above in that she's reminding us that rest and work must co-exist. They are essential to each other. There's another quote that says this:

"Rest is not a reward for great work, it's a requirement for great work to happen." (accredited to a number of different people).

REST and WORK go hand in hand and there's no perfect balance to it, there's just a desire to see them both co-exist because we need both.

This past weekend, Gina and I worked in our yard. We tackled some huge projects, and were able to get a lot done. Long days, one project leading to another, but great satisfaction with how everything came together.

At the end of day one, we both collapsed when it got dark outside, watched a show, laid on the couch, then went to bed. We needed REST after a long day of WORK.

The next day, Gina was up really early going after the next projects. I eventually joined her and we did another full day, just getting stuff done. Stuff that we wanted to do for a long time, but were now able to go after it.

Again, at the end of the day "we rested". Sore bodies, tired from the lifting, pulling and hauling, but satisfied with what was accomplished.

I wrote to you about my "sabbath experience" last week, when I was able to take a day and just rest, walk, listen, nap, enjoy space. That was pure joy.

This weekend was pure joy as well. There's a great sense of accomplishment that comes over you when you finish some projects. We're happy with the work that was done and we're now ready to start the week.

I wish I could say that we got everything done because we didn't, but we have a plan and a pathway forward to finish some things we started.

See the rhythm? It's some work, some rest, even some sabbath and when they are all working together I feel like I'm in a good place.

I think it's when we solely focus one one or the other that we get in trouble. The complete absence of REST isn't sustainable. The lack of purposeful WORK leaves us wondering what we're here for, and the opportunity to find and practice SABBATH on an ongoing basis keeps us connected to our Father and to ourselves.

What are you missing? Which one of these three is the most elusive to you? What are you doing to address that?